·         Always wait until the last minute to settle summer vacation or holiday periods. 

·         Hostile parents always are trying to find ways to frustrate the other parent.

·         Often the only time that a hostile parent may cooperate is when they are threatened with imminent court action or other third party intervention.

·         Not inform the other parent of upcoming school activities, events, or holidays when the child may be off from school.

·         Not inform the other parent of upcoming school activities, events, or holidays when the child may be off from school.

·       Choose daycare providers who are their own friends and know will side with them or bend the truth in their favor to help them make things difficult for the other parent.

·       When a daycare provider does try to do what is right or to expose problem, then the hostile parent will switch to another babysitter without notice to the other parent.

·       Select daycare providers that only they have had the chance to talk to without any consultation or involvement with the other parent.

·         Not ask the other parent to care for the child when the child is sick but instead prefer to take the child to daycare providers outside of the children's own family members.

·         Not giving the other parent the chance to parent the children when the other parent is more than willing.

·        Tell the other parent that the children are too sick to come for their regularly scheduled access visit or to be late because of illness.

·         Create difficulties for the children to see the other parent on special occasions such as birthdays, father's or mother's day, special family gatherings, etc.

·         Make the children feel guilty about seeing the other parent.

·         Insist that the non-custodial parent return the children precisely on time while the custodial parent enjoys flexibility and is able to set their own times.

·         Refuse to have a third party act as a mediator, coordinator, or have any other professional involved in helping the parents co-parent effectively.

·        Take the children to counselors or other professionals to get letters of support in a custody dispute, but do not want those counselors to meet or to obtain any input from the other parent.  (Referred to in the industry as recommendation letters for sale.)

·         Refuse to participate in mediation or any kind of assessment program, which involves the participation of all the members of the family.

·         Unwilling to consider any kind of fair and equal parenting arrangement for the children when such an arrangement is desired by the other parent and were circumstances would permit such an arrangement.

·       Always exhibiting anger towards the other parent, months or years after the separation.

·         Practice parental alienation techniques designed to keep the children and step children from seeing the other parent.

·         Afraid to permit the non custodial parent to take the child to any kind of counseling or other third party professional in case the child may reveal something that they do not want the non custodial parent to find out about.

·         Refuse to disclose important and relevant information from the non custodial parent, which  may be relevant to effective parenting of the child, such as providing place of employment, phone numbers, contact numbers, health card information, etc., when there is no valid reason to keep this information secret.

·         Make it difficult for the non-custodial parent to communicate with such as having the answering machine always on or having others pick up and screen calls, etc., etc.

·         Refusing to promote methods of communication such as E-mail or Fax machines. Hostile parents will say that they don't have E-mail when they do or say their fax machine is broken.

·         Encourage the children to lie and to hide about what is happening in their home.